I Miss You

07 Apr 2011 3 Comments

by adelicious in daily life Tags: parents

• Hei, what’s up ?

• Miss You..

Those are familiar sentences,aren’t they? And maybe they become unfimiliar if they are intended for families, espesially parents (perhaps for some people). Most people feel more comfortable to share with their close friends or boy/girlfriend. And just few people tell theirs to the parents, start from the smallest up to the biggest things. A bit strange, considering the parents actually are the first person we have known since our born, growing, and living like it is now. so when was the last time you talked with your parents? whether yesterday when you told them about it was time to pay your tuition fees? or was it when you told about love life? hopefully we do that not only when there’s a problem and need a hand from our parents but also when we are fine and just wanna know news from our parents (in this case, we miss them).

I miss you, is a sentence i always wanna tell to my parents. However i am not type of person who blatantly tell the words to others easily. i prefer to show my love through deeds than words.

i have a friend who is very romantic with his parents, even more to his mother. he doesnt feel hesitate to say, “Mom, i really miss you” or “I love you Mom”, and so does his mother. She always gives similar feedbacks to him. He expresses his feelings not only through calls, but also deeds. Proven by asking them frequently about their news, and also his to them, they are really looked like close friends. I am really impressed with him, because he is more expressive and certainly braver than me. Sometimes i wonder, what the hell was it that made me feel awkward expressing my feelings through words? Was it because of shame?? pride??? Well, maybe conversation below can make everything looks clearer (Of course, these are my self-to self interview), just check these out :

Me            : Do you miss your parents right now?
My self    : Absolutely
Me            : Did you call/text them today?
My self    : Well, they always call and text me everyday
Me            : And what do you often talk about?
My self : Ordinary things, like my news, academic things, my health, etc..
Me            : Who more often ask?
My self    : My parents
Me            : Who more often talk?
My self    : Me
Me       : Does your parents often tell about problems they’re facing?
My self    : Seldom

i created an image that parents are the childrens’s problem solver. So when there’re problems we told them intensely. And i thought with they never tell their problems, they’re in fine condition. That reflexion finally embedded in my mind and makes me seldom to express my feelings. I thought they dont need that because everything’s fine. And by knowing my news and we communicate each other by mobile was enough to show i miss and love them (i thought). But, hhh.. everybody knows that the best way to communicate with each other is by face-to-face way. Many misunderstandings occur due to communication via voice, text and etc.  I’ve been planting and growing trees of selfish thoughts and i could reap the fruit of pride. Yap, i think by having thought like that i was an arrogant daughter (this is my opinion about my own self. There’s no intention to judge others!!) Then what is my next plan? Probably i wont directly call or text them frontally say, ” I love and miss you, Mom.. Dad”. I’ll start from easy ways but meaningful. Like reverse my position with my parents when calling. I’ll occasionally call them and become their interviewers, and alhamdulillah if i can occasionally become a good listener and their problem solver. During the rest of my life, i’ll use it to serve and make my parents happy with what i have. Amiiin..

I remember few nice words they’ve ever told dir/indirectly to me:

• Take care of your self, my beautiful-sholehah-clever-little daughter

• Papa miss you much, dear

Hmm… i really miss them!!! Mom and Dad… I MISS YOU  SOOO MUCH

Love,

your lovely daughter

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