I Call them True Friends

16 Jan 2011 2 Comments

by adelicious in Friend Tags: bestfriend, friend

When i had a big problem i used to cry and started to think pessimisticly. And that situation was called the role of A. I always tried to look for someone else as a place for sharing and that someone was called the role of B. Confuse, huh? I hope not! I believed other people actually were lazy enough to see my behaviour which tended to be so childish. I realized and understood about that matter but i closed my mind, ears and eyes as if it were normal thing they should receive. OK, THAT WAS TOTALLY WRONG! And thank God i’m awakened for it. I forgot what thing that made me finally realize, but for sure now  i’m turning my self into mature one even though there are some my habits that still childish. But i’m trying and believe this is the process to be a better one eventually.

A few days ago, i got a valuable experience. What was that? i got a situation that i played not as the A role anymore but as the B role. And who was the A? It was my own bestfriend. I didnt know where she learnt how to play the role as best as that time, and honestly she played the role (acted) like me and made me amazed. WOW (LOL). And you know what? I became understand how they (my bestfriends) felt when they acted as the B role. As her bestfriend of course i didnt want to see her in a sadness. And i thought in my mind at that time : “Whats wrong? I think you are strong, crazy and cheerful, so why are u crying like this?”. Why did i think like that? Because that was the first time i saw her cry in my entire life. And in the fact it was hardly to make her cheerful again in many ways. She apparently didnt require any advices or solutions, a thing she was needed was a shoulder for crying on and that was refer to me, her own bestfriend. And i realized  this was it! Thats why when i cried, my bestfriends just said only one/two words. Things that are more needed when you are crying is take action than keep talking. For examples patting your back/shoulder, giving a huge and smiling face, etc. And I tried it, and happily she looked better. An action is more appreciated than a talk. It remainds me about a phrase “OMDO” it means omong doank. hahhaa… yeah but its sure although its just a smile that you can give, it means a lot. Smile reveales that you are not alone. For her, it means Ade is here, your bestfriend is here, we are fun-hard together. Moreover she could understand it with just my smiling face. This is called real bestfriend.

I have many friends but hard to find the real friends among them. More i know about people, the more i know which can be a friend for me and which is not. I wanna tell you about my dullness. That was a time when i was still unstable. I looked for a friend that could make my popularity become high. Well, that was so pity. That was stupid! I used to think popularity was  everything to me (a girl who is perfectionist, unstable and ambitious) then when the popularity was successfully reached i felt empty because that was so not me who did the fake things. Finally i was bored and unhappy and started to make those out of me. I started to do things that i like without coercion from others. And i feel much better now. It is part of my life called Freedom. And let’s guess.. i’ve found my true friends. They are who dont look at to my popularity and dont manipulate me. Love Love Love xoxo :-*

Love,

adelicious

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